“True Blood”: Sure it’s raw, but don’t call it rape

The September issue of Nylon features an interview with Sookie Stackhouse and her vampire lover, Bill Compton’s alter egos, Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer, as well as “True Blood” creator Alan Ball.

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In it, Stephen and Anna talk about their steamy love scenes in the hit HBO series. What I found most interesting – and judging by the comments on the Huffington Post link, so does everyone else – is a comment made by Stephen in which he refers to Season 1’s sex-in-the-cemetery-mud scene as “rape.” Here’s his full quote:

“The thing about vampirism is that it taps into a female point of view – you have an old-fashioned gentleman with manners who is a f***ing killer… it’s an interesting duality, because in our present society it would be an odd thing for a woman to say, ‘I want my man to be physical with me.’ How, as a modern man, can you f***ing work that?”

OK, Stephen, I’m with you so far… But then he goes on to say this:

“It’s one thing to be polite and gentle… But when do you know it’s OK to crawl out of the mud and rape her [as Bill does in one scene]?… It’s difficult stuff for a bloke, but a vampire gets away with it…. I think that’s the attraction of the show – it’s looking back at a romantic time when men were men, but they were still charming.”

Since that’s one of the most memorable scenes in all of Season 1 – heck, I’ll go so far as to say it’s one of the most memorable “True Blood” scenes of all time – I most certainly do recall it. But I don’t think  Bill’s actions – and Sookie’s reaction (she was quite receptive, and I can totally understand why… after all, she thought he was stone cold dead) – constitute rape. It was fraught with passion, lust, anger, frustration… a whole host of emotions, but I wouldn’t call it rape.

Do you agree? I’d love to hear Alan Ball’s take on this.

You can read the rest of the interview here.

Would you take advice from a “Real Housewife”?

Did you know that one of “The Real Housewives of New York City” writes essays for Huffington Post?

Oh, Alex! The song goes "teach your children well," not scare the bejesus out of them.

Oh, Alex! The song goes "teach your children well," not scare the bejesus out of them.

I didn’t. So imagine my surprise when I came across Alex McCord’s latest – titled “Negotiations, Utopia and Martians” – this morning. And this isn’t the first one; apparently Alex has written several for the respected news site.

While the subject of this essay (as well as the previous ones, from a quick glance) is about job hunting and salary negotiations (and seriously, who couldn’t use advice these days?), there are several passages I found particularly amusing.

Let’s go over a few, shall we?

*“These days if I can’t find my shoes, I have an internal tantrum. Luckily I have a husband and two boys who keep me from killing people in the street. So far.”


*“Part of being a grownup is tolerating people you really, really don’t care for. When I was about François’ age, my parents told me that it’s fine (and frankly more honest) to admit that you don’t like someone and think they’re idiots. It’s not, however, necessary to rub their noses in it.”


*“I’m a big believer in either solving your own problems or recognizing that they don’t need to be solved. Life is messy. Realize that the insane person in your life was always that way, and if he or she really thinks that you come from Mars, after one or two attempts to change their mind, it’s simply not going to happen. Don’t turn into a Martian to appease them. If you can’t avoid them and are feeling mischievous, entertain yourself by doing things you know will annoy them! Push those buttons merrily and unapologetically! On second thought, that’s strictly social – don’t try that at work.”


Now, I don’t watch “The Real Housewives of New York City,” but I can’t help but wonder if Alex was thinking about her fellow “Housewives” when she wrote this. What are the chances? Does this essay sound just like the Alex that is on TV?

And what is it about “Real Housewives” – from New York City, to be more specific – thinking they need to offer us advice? Would you take advice from Alex? What about Countess LuAnn de Lesseps?  Would you buy her book, which offers the common man (or woman) advice on living life with elegance and flair?
Update: A real-life Jersey girl (that would be me – metiny1 born, bred and still resides) will blog live on Facebook beginning at 11 p.m. EDT Tuesday, May 12, during the premiere of Bravo’s “Real Housewives of New Jersey.” Come join me and share your thoughts as we meet these five women. Click here or look up my handle,  TV Blogger Ava Gacser, on Facebook. I look forward to seeing you!

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